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How to Prevent Major Marriage Issues from the Very Beginning
(Islamic Guidance for Couples – RuqyahNow)
1️⃣ Start Marriage with Correct Niyyah (Intention)
Islamic Principle
Marriage is ʿIbādah (worship), not just romance or convenience.
📖 Qur’an
“And among His signs is that He created for you spouses that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you love and mercy.” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21)
What Couples Must Do
Intend marriage for:
Pleasing Allah
Protecting chastity
Building a righteous family
NOT only:
Immigration
Money
Looks
Pressure from family
🛑 Wrong intention → fragile marriage
2️⃣ Choose the Right Spouse (Not the Perfect One)
Prophet ﷺ said:
“A woman is married for four things… choose the one with religion.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
Practical Checklist
Before nikah, ask:
How is their salah consistency?
How do they handle anger?
Do they respect parents without being controlled by them?
How do they treat people weaker than them?
💡 Character > beauty > money
3️⃣ Premarital Counseling (Highly Recommended)
Topics That MUST Be Discussed Early
Roles & responsibilities
Financial expectations
Living arrangements (parents / separate)
Children & parenting style
Career plans
Boundaries with opposite gender
Social media use
🛑 Most divorces happen because these were never discussed.
4️⃣ Establish Daily Islamic Practices Together
Simple but Powerful Habits
Pray at least one salah together daily
Make duʿāʾ together
Read Qur’an weekly (even 5–10 mins)
Say Bismillah before intimacy
📖 Hadith
“May Allah have mercy on a man who wakes his wife for prayer…” (Abu Dawood)
🛡️ Couples who worship together break less easily
5️⃣ Protect the Marriage Spiritually (Very Important)
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Prevention from Day One
Recite Surah Al-Baqarah in the home
Morning & evening adhkār
Regular Ruqyah (even without symptoms)
Avoid sharing private marital life publicly
📖 Hadith
“Shayṭān places his throne on water… the most beloved to him is the one who separates a husband and wife.” (Muslim)
⚠️ Many marriages fail due to hasad, evil eye, or sihr, not just communication.
6️⃣ Learn Conflict the Islamic Way (Before Conflicts Happen)
Rules for Disagreements
No insults
No past mistakes used as weapons
No involving outsiders early
Pause when angry → resume later
📖 Qur’an
“And speak to people good words.” (2:83)
💡 You’re solving a problem, not fighting an enemy
7️⃣ Set Clear Boundaries with Opposite Gender
Early Agreement Needed On
Workplace friendships
Social media DMs
Ex-relationships
Privacy of phone
📖 Qur’an
“Do not come near zina.” (17:32)
🛑 Emotional affairs destroy marriages silently.
8️⃣ Keep Family Involvement Balanced
Islam Teaches
Respect parents
But spouse comes first in private life
📖 Hadith
“The best of you are the best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi)
🛑 Over-involvement of in-laws is a top reason for marriage breakdowns in the USA.
9️⃣ Maintain Emotional & Physical Intimacy
Preventive Actions
Express appreciation daily
Don’t weaponize intimacy
Learn halal intimacy etiquettes
Make time for each other
📖 Hadith
“Your wife has a right over you.” (Bukhari)
🔟 Seek Help Early – Not When It’s Too Late
When to Seek Help
Repeated fights
Emotional distance
Loss of mercy
Negative thoughts about spouse
🟢 Early counseling + Ruqyah
🔴 Late intervention = harder recovery
How RuqyahNow Can Help Prevent Marital Issues
🌿 RuqyahNow Preventive Services
Premarital Islamic Counseling
Early Marriage Counseling
Marriage Ruqyah Protection
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🌟 Final Islamic Reminder
Marriage doesn’t break suddenly. It breaks slowly when Allah is removed from the center.